Random thoughts about being a woman.....

Some days I like being a girl and other days yeah well it isn't much fun. I like being a girly girl and putting on makeup, painting my nails, buying new sandals just because they make my toes look sexy, using pretty smelling lotions, getting shiny gold jewelry with gems in them, and of course walking in the house with another pink bag from Victoria Secrets. I also like being a tough girl who can brag that she built her own flower bed lifting all 46 border stones. And yes I like being a independent girl who has made her own way. I like that I appear to be just a girly girl to men then they try to talk intelligent about a subject only till I correct them on their facts. Funny how men think that if we look good we must not have a brain. For as far as us girls have come we still have a long way to go to become a equal partner whether in a marriage or in a career or in politics or even society. Why is it a strong woman is said to be a bitch or a ball buster? Why is it a pretty woman must not be smart? Damn society and I say society because it is not just men that stereo type women. Heck some of a women's worst critics are other women. Women can be so catty and jealous of each other that they will try to keep another woman down. Yes, we can be are worst own enemy at times. With this being said you must wonder why I still want to be a girl, well because I have learned and still am learning how to maneuver around people feeding their needs just enough to get what I want. As I believe I stated in a earlier posting I enjoy reading people and yes I sometimes use what I have learned against them. Here is a trick I have learned that I have used when needed. Most men need to feel stronger and smarter and really need their egos stroked (among other things) so if you know this then you just learn how to use it to your advantage. For example, I wanted my husband to help clean the garage but I knew if I just asked him he would have explained how some game with a ball on the TV was soooo important so instead I started cleaning by myself for a bit (usually only ten minutes) then I asked his opinion on how I could get all of the pool and patio stuff to fit up on the top shelf of the garage. He started out trying to explain it to me while still attached to the couch with the game on and that's where I began to get him. I started asking additional questions and acted like I just didn't understand what he exactly was explaining so he came out to show me how and once he got out there and started I kicked it in to overdrive telling him he was so good at making everything fit neatly and telling him I couldn't believe how strong he was for lifting all that up at once. So before he knew it I had him out there cleaning the garage without ever knowing that was my plan to begin with. Some might think that is tricking him and maybe it is but the garage got cleaned without excuses and he was well rewarded later. :) I have found that you can appeal to most men by either using their "man ego" against them or by using their other "man need" sex. Getting to women is a bit more challenging because most women are on guard of other women by nature. You really need to read them before you attempt to maneuver around them or get them to agree to your cause. The first thing I start out with when approaching a woman is compliment her on something about herself. (hint women can never get enough compliment's) then I feel her out to see if she is extremely intelligent and I need to impress her just enough with knowledge (not to much or she will become threatened) or if she is shallow and wants to talk about others (don't join in and talk about them just listen and act surprised when she tells you things). If she appears to be self assure enough I then just use the woman to woman approach. If she is not self assured then I go back to the complimenting. By no means do I use this technique with everyone but it does come in handy at times. I wish all people could just be real and could be straight forward but unfortunately it doesn't work that way.
Speaking of being a girly girl I should really end this posting so I can go do a french pedicure to my toes. I hate that it is cold and I can't wear sandals right now to show off my feet when I get them finished. Wonder if my husband has a secret foot fetish that I should know about so I can lure him away from the game he is watching on TV. :)