Don't do well with victims.........

I have this major issue with people that act like they are victims to life. I am not a cold hearted bit@h that doesn't understand that bad things happen to people (God knows I have had my share) I am talking about when people choice to just continue to blame their behavior and or mood on that incident and the people that blame other people for what is happening to them like they don't have a choice for themselves. I just want to be real and say we as adults have no one to blame but ourselves for our decisions today. I do believe that our childhood and past can shape who we are and have a influence in how we may chose to approach present issues but it is still up to us on how we will address today. I had some horrific incidents that occurred to me as a child BUT I refuse to be a victim to those issues and live in it today. No, I am not living in denial because I do acknowledge that it occurred, what I am saying is I rather be a survivor and learn from what happen to me than a victim of what happen and sit on the pity pot. Everyone has bad things happen to them but I think it is what you do with it that determines who you are. I think it is much easier to be a victim and just except the negative that comes with it and continue to blame the person or incident for your problems BUT you need to remember that by doing this you are still a victim and still giving your power to them. Being a survivor to a tragic event or to terrible people is not easy because it means you have to deal with what happen,acknowledge how it has effected you, get past the pain and take responsibility for your actions today. I think it is a struggle to be a survivor but I believe that by being this you win because you are no longer allowing the negative to win and keep you a victim. I don't win everyday being a survivor, in fact I still unfortunately have the evidence of a Ben&Jerry carton and one less vacation day at work and pj's with a ice cream stain to remind me of the day recently I decided to hide and not be a survivor. The point I am trying to make is we all should take accountability for what we decide to do and how we are going to act without blaming others. We are responsible for us! All of this ranting is because I contacted someone close to me that I dearly care about and they spent our entire time together being on the pity pot with the poor me people make me this way attitude and it just frustrated me so much that I had to express it somewhere. Don't give up or give in to the victim role cause life is short and you deserve better and you have the power to have better.......